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Exactly Where You Belong

I was at Yoga last night and I had an epiphany. We were doing some stretches and everyone else was joking  around. I thought to myself, great another place where I don’t really belong. Now, I was having fun but I felt as if they were all sharing a bond that I wasn’t part of. It was in that moment my epiphany came.

I DO belong here. Here in this place, in this moment with these people is exactly where I belong. Every lesson I need to learn to help me expand and grow as a person has come from being in the right moment, in the right place and from having the people that I needed to have, in my life.

For everyone out there…. you are where you belong and need to be, in order to grow and learn in some way. If you don’t like where you are, you better figure out why you are there, so that you can move onto a better situation and a better life. Or maybe, you will find out that where you are is actually pretty good, you just haven’t been looking at it the right way.

Everyone one on this earth is exactly, precisely where they need to be and where they belong for their personal journey. And, since we can never fully understand someone else’s life…. there is no human on this earth that has the right to tell you otherwise, unless you choose to give them that power.

How to be Less Judgemental Pt.2

A few months ago I was at a workshop and we were discussing the generalizations that people often use. Always, never, no one, etc.

Above from Below (by me)

The phrase that stuck in my mind was….” Well, she never understands.” I thought to myself, well my mother never does understand… she never understands me, she never understands my choices….. she just does not understand. Over these months I have come to realize…. that in fact my mother does understand, but….. she understands in her way.

For years I have been very frustrated with her because she never sees things my way… we constantly butt heads. Then I came to realize that if she did see this world the way I do, and understand it the way I do…. then she would be me. All these years of being angry at her, but yet, I never gave any respect or consideration for how she sees the world. What right do I have to say that my perceptions and understandings are more right than hers?

Coming to this conclusion then lead me to an even deeper one. There is no way for us to see the world as someone else sees it 100%. There is no way we can know someone’s life or past 100%. Heck, I would even go as far as saying we don’t even know ourselves 100%. So if we don’t know  or understand or see the things absolutely the same way someone else does…… what right do we have to judge them and their choices?

Now you might be thinking to yourself, well there is only 1 way to see the world…. grass is green, the sky is blue, water is wet…… it’s a

fact not a perception. I am here to challenge that. When I was in high school I had a friend who was about 5’4″ (approx 162 cm) and I was also dating a guy who was 6’2″ (188 cm). If you asked my friend…. she would describe me as tall, but if you asked my boyfriend he said I was short. It is impossible to be both tall and short at the same time…. but yet, I was, based on their individual perceptions. For the record I am about 5’8″ (172 cm), which I think is average ( guess that makes me extra special, short, tall and average all at the same time =D ).

Everything you see, hear, smell, taste….. is all perception. And, everything you perceive gets filtered through your past, what youwere taught growing up, your beliefs, etc. You probably perceive things in certain ways because of stuff that you don’t even remember. So if you don’t understand why you perceive things the way you do, what right do you have to judge the way anyone else sees things? I say…lets all stop judging and just start living….. life free of judgement is so much more open and joyous!

Who Am I?

Just this past Friday I had an appointment with my life coach and our discussion has led to some interesting discoveries. We were talking about energetic shielding (how to shield yourself from other people’s energy), and I said that I didn’t like doing that. After 33 years of being very sensitive to others moods and having a strong intuition, I felt like I was cutting off one of my senses. She invited me to explore the possibility that after all these years of others influence, that for the first time, I was truly alone with myself. Also, that I should explore who I am without the influence of others.

At first this was a truly daunting task; without the influence of others, I am nothing (or at least that’s how it felt in there). Then I came to realize that without all those experiences with others, I would be nothing. Life is all about learning and interacting with others. This made me happier and I was fine with that for a few days.

Tonight as I was trying to fall asleep, I came to a very profound conclusion. I realized that yes my past helped shape who I am…. but only if I choose to let it. Who I am, is who I choose to be in this very moment. I choose if my past experiences influence my present in positive or negative ways. I choose how I act towards others. If I am being irritated by someone because they are doing “enter whatever here” AGAIN, that is because I am choosing to let it. I could also choose to view the same situation in a calm way.

I leave for you a few beautiful lyrics from a great song, as you think about who you choose to be.

We should think about,
what we got right now,
cause the good things are made up of time.
Smile to your problems,
leave the past behind.
Never forget this.
Find the truth in your soul,
keeping you alive.
Going on from minute to minute.
Don’t shade the future,
with all that’s behind.
Live for today.

Now is Forever – Eiffel 65