I love the Law of Attraction, the more I learn about how to use it, the more wonderful the results I get. But, yet, there are still a few areas of my life, that no matter how hard I try to apply the Law of Attraction…I can’t seem to get any results.
Recently I saw a video clip somewhere that asked a very simple but profound question.
Why do I want…. ( in my case it was more money)?
This got me to thinking…. before anyone uses the Law of Attraction, they should always ask themselves why do I want that.
If you want more money to pay off debt… chances are, your focus is on debt…so you will just get more debt. If you want a relationship because you are lonely… then your focus is on being lonely.
In life coaching, we often encourage our client to focus on what they are moving towards, instead of what they are moving away from. Instead of debt, maybe focus on financial security. Instead of focusing on moving away from loneliness, focus on finding ways to feel you belong, or ways to have fun.
And maybe, on the odd occasion, you may just find that, you don’t really want what you were asking for.
Even if you aren’t a believer in the Law of Attraction, asking yourself why you want what you want, is always a good starting step in reaching your goals.
I am a strong believer in the law of attraction, and for the most part I seem to be pretty good at it. Anything I truly set my mind to, ends up coming into my life. The only exception to this was trying to attract a partner. I tried, and tried, and tried…. for almost 2 years with pretty much no success. I tried various techniques……making a very detailed list of what I wanted, to a very small list and let the universe fill in the rest. Nothing seemed to work at all.
Finally one day I got so pissed off and frustrated, I just screamed at the universe inside my head. “FINE! You don’t want to send me someone that I want then send me someone that I need.” And with that I released the need to know how…the need to decide what that person was going to be like…I just let go. I was so fed up with waiting, that I just let go of the outcome and just accepted what may come.
About a week after I let go, I met someone. He may not be everything that I wanted… but he is certainly everything that I need. I very much wanted someone who would help me grow on my journey and had assumed that would come from someone who is very spiritual. What I didn’t realize is that I am very proficient with being spiritual… what I really need is someone who grounds me. Also, I am in the process of starting my own coaching practice… and this new, science minded man in my life reminded me that there are a lot of people out there who are not comfortable with spiritual language and who still prefer the scientific terminology. I was about to start my new company…and because I am a spiritual person, assumed everyone would understand what I had to say, on my terms…. I was about to alienate a large amount of the population, right out of the gate.
Now… I am not saying this is “the guy”, I have only know him 3 weeks…. but he is, without a doubt, the man that I need in my life right now.
If you are having trouble manifesting something in your life… ask yourself… is it something you need… or something you just want. The universe is far wiser than you…maybe you just need to let go of what you think you want… and let it give you what you need.
Many times in my life, I have had difficulty finding happiness. I would obsess about all the bad things, or all the things going wrong. I have studied the Law of Attraction, and I knew to change things, I had to change how I thought and how I felt, but, I just couldn’t seem to be able to create happiness and gratitude when my life sucked so bad. Today I had an epiphany. I have been living my life in a state, where I was assuming that this crapiness was going to go on forever. I saw no end. But, by believing that it wouldn’t end, I was reinforcing exactly what I didn’t want. The reality is…that there is an end. Life is all about change. Life changes wether we want it to or not, and it does so pretty quickly. So, whatever it is that you are going through, the end is coming. Now, I don’t know about you, but when I think something is endless, I tend to hunker down and just bear it. When I know the end is coming near, that’s when I raise up my head, breathe, and look around. I begin to feel hopeful about what new beginning might be coming.
I am here today to tell you, that the end is coming, wether you see it or not, it is coming. Nothing, and I mean nothing in life lasts forever. Whatever you are going through is just another temporary situation put in your life to help you grow on your journey Now here’s the big question. The pressure of endlessness has been removed from your shoulders. When this door closes, and a new one opens…do you want more bad stuff….or do you want something wonderful? You create your future with what you are thinking and feeling right now. For me, I chose the wonderful, and just knowing that there is an end, and I have decided that I am going to have something wonderful come…is enough to make me happy. Yes, there are still things in my life that aren’t great and are hard to cope with, but I choose to look at them in a positive way, and I am grateful to have these difficult situations because they are going to help me grow.
What do you choose?