Why Do You Want What You Want?

I love the Law of Attraction, the more I learn about how to use it, the more wonderful the results I get. But, yet, there are still a few areas of my life, that no matter how hard I try to apply the Law of Attraction…I can’t seem to get any results.

Recently I saw a video clip somewhere that asked a very simple but profound question.

Why do I want…. ( in my case it was more money)?

This got me to thinking…. before anyone uses the Law of Attraction, they should always ask themselves why do I want that.

If you want more money to pay off debt… chances are, your focus is on debt…so you will just get more debt. If you want a relationship because you are lonely… then your focus is on being lonely.

In life coaching, we often encourage our client to focus on what they are moving towards, instead of what they are moving away from. Instead of debt, maybe focus on financial security. Instead of focusing on moving away from loneliness, focus on finding ways to feel you belong, or ways to have fun.

And maybe, on the odd occasion, you may just find that, you don’t really want what you were asking for.

Even if you aren’t a believer in the Law of Attraction, asking yourself why you want what you want, is always a good starting step in reaching your goals.

Your Daily Dose of Motivation

This is one saying I remind myself of frequently. I often have fleeting bouts of motivation. If you are like me, then you may need to take a daily dose of motivation too…just like you take your vitamins.

I personally look for anything I find motivating, and then add it to my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/LearningToExhale

Recently, I also started a My Motivation board on Pinterest (http://www.pinterest.com/nephthyrian/my-motivation/ ).

This way when ever I need a dose of motivation I have it ready and waiting for me.

If anyone can recommend any other ways to get a daily does of motivation, please leave a comment!

1 Weird Tip for Insomnia

I have occasionally been subject to bouts of insomnia over the years. I have something that I do, that works 80% of the time for me, but I have never heard of anyone else doing it, so I figured I would share it here in hopes it might help someone else.

Sleep the opposite way around in your bed.

Go to bed normally and if you can’t sleep, put your pillow at the foot of your bed and adjust your bedding accordingly. It will still take you about 10 or 20 min to fall asleep.

I have no idea why it works…if anyone has any insights I would love to hear.

Happy sleeping everyone!

What is Your Best 1 percent ?

I often hear people say that one person can’t change the world. Or maybe you are like me, and find a goal like changing the world too big… too daunting. I found a wonderful inspiration for this, from an unexpected source.

I was watching The Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D earlier today, and the conversation went something like this:

C1: Well, I don’t have the solution.

C2: Neither do I, but if 100 people have 1% of the answer…then we have the solution.

That got me thinking… maybe one person can’t change the world… but if everybody did their best to make their piece of the world a better place…. then maybe we can change the world.

You just have to ask yourself…. am I giving my best 1% ?

How to be Less Judgmental: What’s Your 2,000 bits?

Every second of every day, you are bombarded with billions upon billions of bits of information. Some sources say even as high as 400 billion. Out of all these bits of information, your brain can process and interpret a mere…..2,000 bits of information. That means roughly…. there are 399,999,998,000 bits of information you are missing out on every second.

Now…our subconscious absolutely loves when we encounter things that support our already formed beliefs. So, chances are,  the bulk of those 2,000 bits, is information that  support your beliefs.

Maybe you had bossy parents, or a bossy teacher that you didn’t really like. So you developed a belief that bossy people suck. Now your brain will actively look for people who are demonstrating bossy behaviors……. and it drives you nuts! Everywhere you go people are so damn bossy (or loud, rude, annoying, full of themselves, etc.). Why oh why do you always attract annoying bossy people!!!

If you want to be less judgmental, you have to become aware, that chances are, when you are judging people… you are only seeing the bits that already support those judgments.

Here is my challenge to you…think about what is your 2,000 bits…. and ask yourself do you really like what you see. Changing your 2,000 bits can be as simple as deciding that for the next 24 hrs you want to see happy people ( or whatever you want to see), and suddenly you will start seeing happy people. It may take some practice… but be patient with yourself.

Off-track again???

I am a person who frequently beats myself up, for being off-track…again! I set goals for myself, and somehow on the way to reaching them, I find myself off in the woods (metaphorically speaking).

I have been “off-track” since last January. Within the past few weeks, I found myself to be back on-track…again….out of the blue.  I do know, in the time since January, I have certainly learnt many lessons…. lessons that are going to be a great help to me now that I am on-track again.

So the question is, was I ever really off-track? Or maybe…I just took a detour, or even the scenic route.

I think when trying to reach a goal, too many people beat themselves up. They are so busy keeping their eyes firmly on the goal and running for it full tilt, that they miss the value of the journey around them.

So if you are finding yourself off-track again…take a minute to look around. Maybe there is something of value waiting for you where you are. And…stop beating yourself up! See this as just a detour in your journey. You might take a little longer than you would like to get to your goal… but you are still on the way.

Learning to Inhale

Hello everyone. I have used this blog to help me share life’s lesson with other people. One of my most recent lessons, was that I don’t love myself…. at least not us much as I thought I did. The journey into learning to love yourself is huge task on it’s own. Because of this I have started another blog called Learning to Inhale. It is the place where I will share my journey into loving myself…. and hopefully help some other people in their journey’s as well. I hope you all decide to check it out.  http://learningtoinhale.wordpress.com/

Manifesting Life: Learning to Let go

I am a strong believer in the law of attraction, and for the most part I seem to be pretty good at it.  Anything I truly set my mind to, ends up coming into my life. The only exception to this was trying to attract a partner. I tried, and tried, and tried…. for almost 2 years with pretty much no success. I tried various techniques……making a very detailed list of what I wanted, to a very small list and let the universe fill in the rest. Nothing seemed to work at all.

Finally one day I got so pissed off and frustrated, I just screamed at the universe inside my head. “FINE! You don’t want to send me someone that I want then send me someone that I need.” And with that I released the need to know how…the need to decide what that person was going to be like…I just let go. I was so fed up with waiting, that I just let go of the outcome and just accepted what may come.

About a week after I let go, I met someone. He may not be everything that I wanted… but he is certainly everything that I need. I very much wanted someone who would help me grow on my journey and had assumed that would come from someone who is very spiritual. What I didn’t realize is that I am very proficient with being spiritual… what I really need is someone who grounds me. Also, I am in the process of starting my own coaching practice… and this new, science minded man in my life reminded me that there are a lot of people out there who are not comfortable with spiritual language and who still prefer the scientific terminology. I was about to start my new company…and because I am a spiritual person, assumed everyone would understand what I had to say, on my terms…. I was about to alienate a large amount of the population, right out of the gate.

Now… I am not saying this is “the guy”, I have only know him 3 weeks…. but he is, without a doubt, the man that I need  in my life right now.

If you are having trouble manifesting something in your life… ask yourself… is it something you need… or something you just want. The universe is far wiser than you…maybe you just need to let go of what you think you want… and let it give you what you need.

Exactly Where You Belong

I was at Yoga last night and I had an epiphany. We were doing some stretches and everyone else was joking  around. I thought to myself, great another place where I don’t really belong. Now, I was having fun but I felt as if they were all sharing a bond that I wasn’t part of. It was in that moment my epiphany came.

I DO belong here. Here in this place, in this moment with these people is exactly where I belong. Every lesson I need to learn to help me expand and grow as a person has come from being in the right moment, in the right place and from having the people that I needed to have, in my life.

For everyone out there…. you are where you belong and need to be, in order to grow and learn in some way. If you don’t like where you are, you better figure out why you are there, so that you can move onto a better situation and a better life. Or maybe, you will find out that where you are is actually pretty good, you just haven’t been looking at it the right way.

Everyone one on this earth is exactly, precisely where they need to be and where they belong for their personal journey. And, since we can never fully understand someone else’s life…. there is no human on this earth that has the right to tell you otherwise, unless you choose to give them that power.

How to be Less Judgemental Pt.2

A few months ago I was at a workshop and we were discussing the generalizations that people often use. Always, never, no one, etc.

Above from Below (by me)

The phrase that stuck in my mind was….” Well, she never understands.” I thought to myself, well my mother never does understand… she never understands me, she never understands my choices….. she just does not understand. Over these months I have come to realize…. that in fact my mother does understand, but….. she understands in her way.

For years I have been very frustrated with her because she never sees things my way… we constantly butt heads. Then I came to realize that if she did see this world the way I do, and understand it the way I do…. then she would be me. All these years of being angry at her, but yet, I never gave any respect or consideration for how she sees the world. What right do I have to say that my perceptions and understandings are more right than hers?

Coming to this conclusion then lead me to an even deeper one. There is no way for us to see the world as someone else sees it 100%. There is no way we can know someone’s life or past 100%. Heck, I would even go as far as saying we don’t even know ourselves 100%. So if we don’t know  or understand or see the things absolutely the same way someone else does…… what right do we have to judge them and their choices?

Now you might be thinking to yourself, well there is only 1 way to see the world…. grass is green, the sky is blue, water is wet…… it’s a

fact not a perception. I am here to challenge that. When I was in high school I had a friend who was about 5’4″ (approx 162 cm) and I was also dating a guy who was 6’2″ (188 cm). If you asked my friend…. she would describe me as tall, but if you asked my boyfriend he said I was short. It is impossible to be both tall and short at the same time…. but yet, I was, based on their individual perceptions. For the record I am about 5’8″ (172 cm), which I think is average ( guess that makes me extra special, short, tall and average all at the same time =D ).

Everything you see, hear, smell, taste….. is all perception. And, everything you perceive gets filtered through your past, what youwere taught growing up, your beliefs, etc. You probably perceive things in certain ways because of stuff that you don’t even remember. So if you don’t understand why you perceive things the way you do, what right do you have to judge the way anyone else sees things? I say…lets all stop judging and just start living….. life free of judgement is so much more open and joyous!